I felt like that for much of my life. I don’t know if anyone actually ever told me that, but I do know I sure felt like I was.
My personal struggle was around math and I can still remember staring at the times tables in 3rd grade, trying to make sense of what the hell I was looking at. I struggled with it throughout my education process and thankfully landed in a Math 96 course when I decided to go to college as an older adult.
Yep, I felt stupid walking into that class too.
BUT….Oh yes, that math instructor understood that many of us DID NOT UNDERSTAND.
She got that we had not understood math for most of our lives. She taught with Hershey Bars to show us about fractions! Perhaps I would have had a better concept of math had it involved chocolate years before when I was struggling?
Eventually I made it through statistics, a lovely requirement to gaining that expensive ass piece of paper that declared I was a college grad. Don’t get me wrong, I learned a ton and know that going to college has helped me in ways I haven’t yet discovered. Focusing on education helped me get through a very necessary divorce, but that is a whole different story.
Oh yes, did I feel stupid having to get a divorce? Yep, should have seen that writing on the wall from day one too.
Here’s the thing though, because I had this broken, wrong idea about who I really was; I kept making decisions based on the faulty assumption that I was stupid. In reality, I just didn’t know so damn many things!
Here is what I know: YOU ARE NOT STUPID. I AM NOT STUPID. NO ONE IS STUPID.
Confused. Angry. Didn’t Know. Unaware. Those are things that most likely can apply to anyone at any given time. But that is a far cry from being stupid!
Yes, of course we may make dumb decisions and perhaps have regrets over things, but that just makes us human.
Here is what else I know: YOU ARE SMART. YOU ARE BRILLIANT. YOU ARE A SHINING LIGHT.
Don’t dim that light for anyone or anything. We need to know that others struggle just like we do and they still come out on top somehow. We need to know that we are not alone.
We need your voice, your thoughts and ideas!
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